Why debunking female masturbation is a necessary conversation, a topic so awkward that a lot of females would love to shy away from discussing it, but it’s high time we did.
Am I Making You Uncomfortable? This is the title of Huffpost’s new podcast by Brogan Driscoll and Rachael Moss. This article is very much inspired by a conversation they had with Alix Fox about the need to knows around female masturbation.
Even bringing up the subject of masturbation is a little uncomfortable. Bring females into this topic and you have a widely unexplored subject. Whether this is related to cultural or religious views on self-pleasure or female pleasure is up to individual experience.
One universal element though is that the concept of female pleasure is a little frowned upon. Most cultures would prefer that the woman stay a virgin until she meets the right guy and they marry and have safe marital sex that will then produce children.
Reality depicts otherwise though. Females do masturbate, and they should! Self-pleasuring is certainly a gateway to understanding and knowing your own body. This will open doors of exploring what you like and what you do not like.
A more popular subject than female masturbation is females faking an orgasm. About 75% of women do not orgasm with penetrative sex. It takes a little more than putting a penis or finger into a vagina to get most women there.
Alix highlights that there are several aspects that can contribute to sexual pleasure. The first is to take the focus off your genitals a little bit and focusing on your body as a whole. Sensate focus requires one to focus on different parts of your body such as your neck, or palms for example. To explore your whole body and its potential to give you pleasure.
Breathing is another important part of sexual pleasure. Porn provides a few misconceptions about female pleasure. Taking deep breaths when experiencing pleasure can help you reach an orgasm. Unlike the little panting and yelping sounds that females make in porn. These apparently tighten up your chest and make you a little tense.
Breathing freely and groaning helps stimulate a nerve called vagus nerve which spreads from the back of your neck, skull and reaches down to your pelvic region. And lastly, kegel exercises during sex or masturbation can help trigger an orgasm too!
Women are all different of course and as some things will work for some, others will not. Exploring your body and trying out different ways that it can pleasure you is important. It is so much easier to feel good about yourself when you make yourself feel good!