Sex education for children is a moral and tense territory. Morality dictates sex a taboo, so sex education for children is a tense territory to discuss.
Different religions inform morality and ethics in society. These in turn inform the rules and moral standards by which they measure themselves against. Sex is a topic most taboo in most cultures. I was told I was brought by an aeroplane to my parents.
The other story I remember my dad telling me is that I was picked under the sea where rows of babies were put in glass containers for parents to come and choose. And I was chosen by them out of all the other babies.
Pretty elaborate tales than saying: “well me and your mom had sex and I came inside her and she was ovulating and she got pregnant and grew a baby inside her stomach for nine months. That baby was you”.
A cringe worthy mouthful right? So how do you even begin to look your child in the eye and explain to them a subject that was a taboo topic which was never discussed to you as a child? If you as a young woman and had waited for marriage and then had sex? How much did you know about sex the first time you had sex?
Access to the internet has made access to porn accessible to children at a young age. And anyway kids talk to each other information and misinformation is shared.
Pornography portrays a particular way of having sex. The focus on female bodies for the pleasure of the male gaze has come to inform most young children’s perception on sex.
Sex then becomes a performative act of what they have seen. Preventing a natural development of an individual’s relationship with safe sex. Teach precautionary measures to safe sex and contraceptive.
We also all know that contraceptives are not a hundred percent. A condom is only 99.9% secure. I was one of 0.01% of women to fall pregnant with an IUD contraceptive, that is a story do another day.
Not to just tell girls to close their legs so that they don’t get pregnant, but to also inform them what to do when they do get pregnant.
Not to encourage girls to fall pregnant, but to inform them of their bodies and how to form a relationship with sex and pleasure and how to do so safely. Safety is important territory for children, if we all can agree to that part.
Humans learn about sex in different ways, that is a kind of sex education. Whether it is taught in schools or not, that it is progressive or taboo or not is futile. So what is next?